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The gift of inquiry and questions

Have you ever been told you need to “coach” your team more?

Many leaders I work with tell me, “I have heard it’s important to create a coaching culture at work.”

They also share that they don’t really know what that means.

They don’t know HOW to coach.

This is normal.

Learning to be a leader-as-coach is typically not taught at university or within organizations.

This is why all of my training programs include the development of this very important leadership skill!

Today, I’ll focus on one coaching aspect so you can get started.

To be a good leader-as-coach, you need to learn to ask questions. 

Lots of questions.

You need to shift from telling people what to do… to asking people what they think.

The good news is that there are no right or wrong questions.

However, there are certain questions that I consider to be great coaching questions.

As an executive coach, I know I have asked a client a good question when they say, “I never thought about that before.” or “Let me think about that for a minute.”

Great questions allow the other person to pause and think twice.

If you have a scheduled coaching conversation in your calendar, you can even plan your questions in advance.

For example, if you know your colleague has trust issues on their team, write a list of relevant questions in advance.

Alternatively, ask CHAT GPT to prepare some questions for you in advance.

Yes, that’s right! Don’t sweat it. AI can even help your coaching practice!

I wanted to test this hypothesis for you.

So, I asked CHAT GPT the following question:

“What are five good coaching questions to ask someone who lacks trust in their team?”

Here is the response that I received:

Sure, here are the top 5 coaching questions:

  1. What specific incidents or behaviours have led to your feeling of mistrust in your team?
  2. How do you think your lack of trust impacts your ability to work effectively with your team?
  3. What would need to happen for you to begin to trust your team members more?
  4. What actions could you take to demonstrate trust in your team members?
  5. Can you recall a time when you felt trusted by a colleague or leader? What made that experience different?

I thought these questions were actually very good.

They explore the reasons behind the lack of trust and then focus on how to build trust in the future.

So, what can you do to move from telling to coaching?

How can you use the power of questions to create a coaching culture on your team? 

Vanessa Judelman

Vanessa Judelman is an author, coach, and sought-after leadership expert. Over the past 20 years, she has created a proven formula to develop results-oriented leaders who feel empowered and confident in their job. Vanessa is the author of Mastering Leadership: What It Takes to Lead in Today’s Fast-Paced World. Order your copy here.

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